permission to be happy…

permission to be happy…

Seaora — December 19, 2022

First off…a huge shout out to my family and friends who have seen me through 2022. I deeply appreciate and love you all very much because I would not have made it through without you checking in on me and being YOU for ME.

And in that, a lot of you had a reoccurring encouragement to tell me, and it was “Seaora, go out and have fun. Give yourself permission to be happy and laugh”.

Well, let me tell you something; I did exactly that. A great friend of mine joined me and we went out of town to get away and cut loose. I was a bit nervous because as most of you know, I may be a workaholic that rarely leaves work. But with such a great staff to support the shops, I was able to breathe and focus on nothing but fun.

We went out to eat and created new ways to make a cheeseburger with chicken strips, walked the beach and chatted. We went to the bars and played pool and laughed. LAUGHED FROM THE BELLY fun (we are not going to talk about the hangover, ok). Stumbled around town with no pretenses other than to be happy.

It was just what I needed. To be with such a great person who, like me had no agenda, that I was safe with to be me and have fun. I now know that I was not giving myself permission to have fun. I was oddly punishing myself by overworking and being hyperattentive to everyone else’s needs instead of my own.

This little excursion a week ago has still lit my heart up with joy and I cannot wait to do it again. And to my friend…thank you and I just love you to pieces.

If you take anything away from this, please - let it be that you too have permission to have fun and cut loose. The world will not fall apart if you decide to run away for a bit for rest and reset. Many times, we feel like we need to justify being happy, whether that means buying something you want or just zoning out for a walk. It is a conditioning that we need to earn happiness and that misery is the normal state. This conditioning makes us slaves to work (that’s for another blog). I rather think that happiness is our default and can be rediscovered by reconnecting with our inner selves and those in our circle. Real life, real people, and real experiences.

You are important for sure to all those that love you, but you are more important in the loving of yourself in a healthy and healing way.

Sending you big crazy love - Seaora